Police plea: Don't turn a blind eye to domestic violence

SENIOR domestic abuse investigator is calling on the community to help stamp out violence in the home – insisting: “Please don't turn a blind eye to it.”

Detective Sergeant Carl Moss said tonight (Thursday, November 15) neighbours and relatives of victims could help bring to an end their ordeals – which are often suffered behind closed doors.

The officer, head of Darlington's domestic abuse investigation team, said countless crimes go unreported and added: “People have a social and moral obligation to protect others.”

In the Northern Territories of Australia, the law states that anyone who believes someone is being hurt by a member of their family must report it to the police.

Det Sgt Moss said: “We are not at that stage in this country, but it's deemed so serious in that part of the world that it's a crime not to inform the authorities if you suspect something.

“The message I want to get over is people would be willing to report minor crimes to the police – a simple theft or damage – yet for some reason they don't with domestic abuse.

“People need to realise that victims are often some of the most vulnerable in the community, who are unable to report domestic abuse themselves because of the many barriers.

“It may well be that their one call or contact to police or other agencies such as social services or Crimestoppers could save that person's life . . . it really is as important as that.

“Three or four women a week die as a result of domestic abuse. How would they live with themselves if they thought 'I could have prevented that. I could have stopped it happening'?”

Det Sgt Moss revealed how his department deals with a monthly average of 260 calls, but said reports from the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender communities are “exceptionally rare”.

“Logic would say it is happening in those areas, too,” he said. “I would seek to reassure that we possess the skills and knowledge to support and help them to escape their abuse.

“One in four women suffer domestic abuse if those statistics are accurate, that means abuse in Darlington is under-reported. There are many victims who are suffering in silence.

“I would urge members of the public who think someone is in an abusive relationship to make that contact. People think 'it's nothing to do with me' but it is a community problem.

“We deal with victims and offences that could have been prevented by people just making that contact . . . all will be treated professionally and in confidence if they wish.”

People can call the police on 101 for non-emergencies or 999 in emergencies.

Sanctuary Carr-gomm can be contacted on (01325) 352501, and the number for Family Help is (01325) 364486. Crimestoppers is 0800 555111.

The website www.speakouttoday.co.uk may also be useful.

Det Sgt Moss or a member of his team will be attending forthcoming PACT (Police And Communities Together) meetings. Venues and dates can be obtained by asking a police officer, PCSO or contacting 101.

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1:53am Fri 16 Nov 12

Davy Crocket says...

Sadly many women who suffer go back and end up being a punch bag time and time again.
Sadly many women who suffer go back and end up being a punch bag time and time again. Davy Crocket
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6:52am Fri 16 Nov 12

diga says...

I saw a man punching a young woman in a car in her face last week. Unfortunately he had pushed her into the passenger seat and driven off before I had time to react. I wish I had got the registration number but I was so shocked by what I was seeing that I never thought.... :( I hope she is ok.
I saw a man punching a young woman in a car in her face last week. Unfortunately he had pushed her into the passenger seat and driven off before I had time to react. I wish I had got the registration number but I was so shocked by what I was seeing that I never thought.... :( I hope she is ok. diga
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8:50am Fri 16 Nov 12

D. Hop says...

Some years back my sister was being bullied and attacked by her ex partner. Countless phone calls were made to the police with no response, she was told to keep her doors locked!!! That didnt stop him throwing a bin through the window.
Some years back my sister was being bullied and attacked by her ex partner. Countless phone calls were made to the police with no response, she was told to keep her doors locked!!! That didnt stop him throwing a bin through the window. D. Hop
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11:49am Fri 16 Nov 12

entitled opinion says...

D. Hop wrote:
Some years back my sister was being bullied and attacked by her ex partner. Countless phone calls were made to the police with no response, she was told to keep her doors locked!!! That didnt stop him throwing a bin through the window.
How long ago was this and you say she got no response but then contradict yourself by sayingshe was told to keep her doors locked so she must have been seen/spoken to? Unfortunately years ago most people including the police had the mentality that whatever went on behind closed doors stayed behind closed doors. This is no longer the case, there are so many things that the police can do to help and I hope that by publicising just how much of a problem this is then people may be more inclined to report it. Most neighbours, friends and family know what is going on but very rarely do anything about it. They need to make a stand and report it before their loved one is killed and they are left full of regret for not doing anything about it.
[quote][p][bold]D. Hop[/bold] wrote: Some years back my sister was being bullied and attacked by her ex partner. Countless phone calls were made to the police with no response, she was told to keep her doors locked!!! That didnt stop him throwing a bin through the window.[/p][/quote]How long ago was this and you say she got no response but then contradict yourself by sayingshe was told to keep her doors locked so she must have been seen/spoken to? Unfortunately years ago most people including the police had the mentality that whatever went on behind closed doors stayed behind closed doors. This is no longer the case, there are so many things that the police can do to help and I hope that by publicising just how much of a problem this is then people may be more inclined to report it. Most neighbours, friends and family know what is going on but very rarely do anything about it. They need to make a stand and report it before their loved one is killed and they are left full of regret for not doing anything about it. entitled opinion
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11:58am Fri 16 Nov 12

D. Hop says...

entitled opinion wrote:
D. Hop wrote: Some years back my sister was being bullied and attacked by her ex partner. Countless phone calls were made to the police with no response, she was told to keep her doors locked!!! That didnt stop him throwing a bin through the window.
How long ago was this and you say she got no response but then contradict yourself by sayingshe was told to keep her doors locked so she must have been seen/spoken to? Unfortunately years ago most people including the police had the mentality that whatever went on behind closed doors stayed behind closed doors. This is no longer the case, there are so many things that the police can do to help and I hope that by publicising just how much of a problem this is then people may be more inclined to report it. Most neighbours, friends and family know what is going on but very rarely do anything about it. They need to make a stand and report it before their loved one is killed and they are left full of regret for not doing anything about it.
It was around 5yrs ago, and while I say we didn't get a response I mean a response of any value. When you have a lunatic on your front lawn kicking the living daylights out of the front door and eventually throwing a large object at the window (with small children in the house), its a physical presence thats required not inadequate advice!!!
My own take on it was that they didnt want to show physical presence as the offender was known to be very dangerous.
[quote][p][bold]entitled opinion[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]D. Hop[/bold] wrote: Some years back my sister was being bullied and attacked by her ex partner. Countless phone calls were made to the police with no response, she was told to keep her doors locked!!! That didnt stop him throwing a bin through the window.[/p][/quote]How long ago was this and you say she got no response but then contradict yourself by sayingshe was told to keep her doors locked so she must have been seen/spoken to? Unfortunately years ago most people including the police had the mentality that whatever went on behind closed doors stayed behind closed doors. This is no longer the case, there are so many things that the police can do to help and I hope that by publicising just how much of a problem this is then people may be more inclined to report it. Most neighbours, friends and family know what is going on but very rarely do anything about it. They need to make a stand and report it before their loved one is killed and they are left full of regret for not doing anything about it.[/p][/quote]It was around 5yrs ago, and while I say we didn't get a response I mean a response of any value. When you have a lunatic on your front lawn kicking the living daylights out of the front door and eventually throwing a large object at the window (with small children in the house), its a physical presence thats required not inadequate advice!!! My own take on it was that they didnt want to show physical presence as the offender was known to be very dangerous. D. Hop
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1:36pm Fri 16 Nov 12

vonnieben1 says...

I was in an abusive relationship 28 yrs ago and then it was classed as a 'domestic' and nothing could be done,I escaped when he beat me to a pulp and threatened my 6mth old daughter with a knife. People say ,'why can't you just leave' but having been in that situation it's not as easy as people think.i did escape and lived in fear for years but at least it was better than living in fear of him.
I was in an abusive relationship 28 yrs ago and then it was classed as a 'domestic' and nothing could be done,I escaped when he beat me to a pulp and threatened my 6mth old daughter with a knife. People say ,'why can't you just leave' but having been in that situation it's not as easy as people think.i did escape and lived in fear for years but at least it was better than living in fear of him. vonnieben1
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6:17pm Fri 16 Nov 12

Idontknowaboutyoubut says...

While I agree,in principle,that we all have a responsibility towards the victim of ANY abuse,I can understand why people are often reluctant to get involved.Some years ago,while on a night out with my wife,we came across a couple having a spat in the street.The woman was taking a beating and I foolishly stepped in to stop the assault.Lo and behold,missus started battering ME round the head with fists and hand bag,while he laid about me with fists and boot.Fortunately,the cops arrived.Guess who they arrested first?Yep.ME.Several witnesses,who were enjoying the show,were able to convince the police that I was the innocent party and they let me go.As for them,they both assured the cops that all was rosy between them,and they too were let go.
Needless to say,never again would I intervene in such a battle.Call the cops and let them deal with it,if they can be bothered..!
While I agree,in principle,that we all have a responsibility towards the victim of ANY abuse,I can understand why people are often reluctant to get involved.Some years ago,while on a night out with my wife,we came across a couple having a spat in the street.The woman was taking a beating and I foolishly stepped in to stop the assault.Lo and behold,missus started battering ME round the head with fists and hand bag,while he laid about me with fists and boot.Fortunately,the cops arrived.Guess who they arrested first?Yep.ME.Several witnesses,who were enjoying the show,were able to convince the police that I was the innocent party and they let me go.As for them,they both assured the cops that all was rosy between them,and they too were let go. Needless to say,never again would I intervene in such a battle.Call the cops and let them deal with it,if they can be bothered..! Idontknowaboutyoubut
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9:23pm Fri 16 Nov 12

stevegg says...

Well lets hope the police have the resources to deal with a potential massive influx of crime investigation because from what Ive heard, from several serving police officers, they are almost at breaking point due to front line depletion and are only reactive orientated now, not proactive !
Well lets hope the police have the resources to deal with a potential massive influx of crime investigation because from what Ive heard, from several serving police officers, they are almost at breaking point due to front line depletion and are only reactive orientated now, not proactive ! stevegg
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10:25am Sun 18 Nov 12

Davy Crocket says...

How daft ... theres no point in reporting a violent person if they are going to be let out on bail or slapped on the wrist ... we all know what they'll do then. Murder will be on their mind.
How daft ... theres no point in reporting a violent person if they are going to be let out on bail or slapped on the wrist ... we all know what they'll do then. Murder will be on their mind. Davy Crocket
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